Day 4: Forgive Others

Today in the 30 Days of Truth: Something you need to forgive someone else for

Forgiveness is tough. Anger is tougher. It sits inside you and festers. It never hurts the other person, but it will tear you apart. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you become their best bud, that you start hanging out with them or even that speak to them ever again. Forgiveness isn't something you have to even say to them. You can tell them "I forgive you" or you can write them a letter if you want, but you don't have to. Forgiveness is a decision you make to let go of the anger. The anger that is destroying you. That is filling your veins and your heart with cold, hard hate. I used to hold a great grudge. There was the girl from college who told my best friend that she hated me, because I beat her and her roommate out in two different elections in two different clubs. Then there was the college boyfriend who tried to control me. Then there was the summer boyfriend who would cry and get angry when I'd try to break up with him, but then I learned that he was cheating with his ex-girlfriend. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too. There were the co-workers who tried to tell me Chance was a vicious dog and would bite someone, just because he's a pittbull. (He's the one in my header snuggling with the cat, looks vicious, doesn't he?) It's taken a long time, but I think I'm in a good place right now. I've moved on from all the old boyfriends and shady people that I've had in my life.